How To Forgive Someone
And Let Go of Anger and Resentment

Many people have reached out to me for advice on how to forgive someone  since writing the article about what happened  when I came face-to-face with the man who attacked and assaulted me a few months back.

How to Forgive Someone: The First Step

Coincidentally, over the years I've published many articles with specific strategies on how to forgive someone right on this site.  They all start with the same first step: Deciding that you WANT to forgive and let go.

I know that that is not always easy. but it is essential for your happiness in life.

Today I was interviewed by the founders of the Marriage Restoration Project, Shlomo and Rivka Slatkin, on the topic of letting go of emotional baggage in relationships.We talk about getting to that first step of forgiveness here:

 Why Learn How to Forgive Someone:

  • Forgiveness is what helps the forgiver heal and be at peace. The idea that anger and resentment punishes the person who wronged you, is a completely false idea. Anger and resentment disturb YOUR happiness. The person who hurt you is not in your head or your heart. They are not feeling your pain.
  • You do have a "right. . . " When someone does something to "wrong" you, you have a right to be angry. But you ALSO have a right to be happy

Think about it: You can NOT possibly be happy and resentful at the same time. Pick one!

More Tips on How to Forgive Someone

1. If you can't go all the way, loosen your grip. 

Most people dig themselves into a position by needing to be “right.” If you are not ready to let go and you choose to remain resentful for now, that is okay.  Forgive yourself for your humanity, then open yourself up to the possibility of choosing again by affirming that you indeed want to "let go" of the grievance. 

In other words, choose consciously and when your choice in not in line with your greater good, do your best to loosen your grip a bit and say something like: "I really want to let go of this grievance and release myself from these negative feelings. Perhaps I'm not ready at this moment but I am growing each and every day. I pray that I am able to let this go. I want to let this go and I will let this go."    

2. Changing perceptual positions in your mind is very useful exercise for loosening your grip on a position. If you imagine a situation from different points of view, experiencing it from an observer position -- and, depending on the situation -- the person who hurt you, it helps you to see a situation in a more balanced way.  It also helps you get honest with yourself about you own role in the circumstance which is helpful to personal development.

3. Practice makes perfect. The more you practice forgiveness, the easier it gets.

4. SELF–acceptance and self-forgiveness plays a huge role in forgiving others. Healing deep wounds of unworthiness and unconscious guilt makes everything easier. That is because a lot of our outward "suffering" is a projection of what is happening inside.

Forgiveness is possible for each one of us, we are all capable of it and most importantly, deserve it. 


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