You've probably heard self help gurus say, "If you want to take control of life, live your life purpose." But it’s not always easy.
Truth be told, I have spent more time in my life doubting my “life purpose” than being in alignment with it. Even after 25 years of counseling and coaching, and knowing that I love it, I've had periods of time where I questioned whether I ought to be doing something else.
It has literally taken thousands of client hours, thousands of hours studying and doing my “own” work to finally embrace that which was my “calling” and take control of life.
What is it that led me to maintain a disconnect from my life purpose, even after years of successfully helping transform my client's lives?
Why wasn’t I able to embrace, accept and know that this aspect of my life was an important part of my life purpose?
As importantly, how does all this help you in your situation?
Perhaps you’ve experienced something similar:
For a long time I believed that if I wasn’t further along in my evolution/transformation I was an “imposter”.
I had this inner conflict, this “shame” that always kept me feeling like my work wasn’t good enough, because somehow I wasn’t further along or healed enough or this or that enough. Even though my clients were making amazing progress and experiencing transformational change with the mind power techniques I shared, I was the one left behind feeling stuck. I realized it was my self esteem that was the problem.
As I began to work on
myself and heal this shame, judgment and inner critic a wonderful shift
within began to happen. I felt happier, and more self confident. I no
longer worried that I had to work harder to prove my worth to my
clients. I was FINALLY enough, just as I am.
Being me was sufficient. Helping others take control of life became effortless. If for some reason I was not the right match for a client, that became evident quickly, but it was not because I felt inadequate, or didn't know the right mind power techniques.
Instead it because I was done working so hard to be what others needed me to be. As myself, there are those who I could help and those who would benefit from working with others who have other gifts and talents.
By developing an ability to love and accept ourselves we increase self-awareness, self- confidence as we set forth on the journey to align with our inner knowing and inner being.
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