Self motivation skills can literally make the difference between massive success and total failure in almost every area of your life.
Whether you want to be more successful in your school or career, get into shape, or improve your social life, self motivation skills are the difference between THINKING about change and actually MAKING IT HAPPEN.
In this section on self
motivation skills, I am going to give you step by step instructions for discovering your motivators and values in any given context. By learning how to precisely identify what drives you to action, you can more effectively use the the many motivation techniques I have written about on this site.
The information in this section is based on the work of Noam Chomsky, who first identified that HOW you speak about something (your language patterns) reveal a lot more about you -- both conscious and unconscious -- than simply the content of the information shared.
It makes complete sense when you consider that with every experience, we collect a lot of data about that event. Yet, when we "tell" someone about that experience, we communicate less than 2% of our the data. By paying close attention to our "selection" of information, and the words we chose to communicate our experience, we get insight into our psyches (and thus our motivation) around that specific issue.
Roger Bailey built on Noam's work on Transformational Grammar by creating the Language and Behavior (LAB) Profile which is now widely used as a human resource mind tool all over the world.
Three keys for action are:
Keep these points in mind when using these self motivation skills:
Criteria are the hot buttons that provoke a emotional and/or physical response. They are your labels for goodness in any given context.
Lets take something simple, bread, for example. Your criteria for buying bread might be that it is very fresh. For others, it may be wholegrain or rye or white. For others, criteria in buying bread may revolve around taste, cost or ethnicity.
In the context of career, a person's criteria may include location, money, status, fulfillment, using your talents, or being able to make a living doing what you love.
You can see how someone, a musician, for example, whose criteria is doing what he loves and using his musical talent, would not be motivated to take a high paying office job. Or a person whose criteria for bread is healthy and whole grain, probably won't be motivated to by a loaf of fresh, white bread on sale -- no matter how good the sale is.
To find your hot button motivators ask yourself these questions:
Self motivation skills begin with you identifying your hot buttons.
In a previous article on self motivation techniques, I discussed the pain/ pleasure motivators and the self motivation skills of using your internal senses to move you into action.
The precise language you use, will "tell you" what strategy is required to move you forward. Is it the "carrot or the stick?"
In other words, your exact words will indicate your motivational direction. By paying attention to them, you will know whether focusing on the pain of NON-ACTION, or the rewards of action, will be stronger triggers for you.
People whose motivational direction is "away from," are great problem solvers. Their impetus for action comes from fixing things and solving problems. Goals and rewards won't get them off their butts.
In any given context, you simply cannot motivate a reward driven person with a problem solver tactic, and vice versa. The person might give lip service to it, but the strategy will not MOVE them to action. And getting yourself to take action, is what self motivation skills are all about.
Reward driven people (also called "Toward" motivational direction) need goals to be motivated.
If you answer the criteria questions with only what you want to gain, get or achieve, you fit the reward-driven motivational profile. For example: I would get a promotion, make more money and be able to travel."
For this type of person, It is very important for you to have SMART goals to stay motivated. Without clear rewards, you might find you lack motivation.
A problem solver (also called "away-from" motivational direction) will answer the same criteria question with what they want to avoid, exclude or solve.
For example: "I won't be stuck in this dead end job, or have to worry about my bills."
Problem solvers are motivated by what will happen if they don't take
action. They need to be reminded of the discomfort the present situation
will cause, to get motivated. The worse the pain, the more they are
Visualizing goals are self
motivation skills for "Toward" people -- but not for problem solvers. Pain can be "created" using visualization techniques as
described in this article.
If you answered the question partly with what you want to gain, and partly with an "away from" answer, you need to use both strategies.
For example: "I would get a promotion and not have so many outstanding bills."
Values are the highest level criteria in any given context. Therefore they are your strongest motivators, and very important for self motivation skills.
The way you elicit a person's values is to find out the "why" behind their labels for goodness, or criteria, and take it to the highest level.
Let's go back to that bread example I used earlier, if someone's criteria is whole grain. To find the value driving that criteria, don't assume that they are necessarily health conscious.There could be a host of other values that could drive their "whole grain" criteria.
For example, there might be a family member who only eats whole grain. And perhaps, the value driving them, in this context, is Family or or Home. It may have nothing to do with health. From a problem solver's perspective, the whole grain criteria may be driven by wanting to avoid an argument. Their value may be "Peace."
Lets look at another context for applying self
motivation skills : making money
Write down the answers to the questions EXACTLY as you would say it out loud.
Now let's see what we can tell about you from your answers.
If your language in answering the question spoke only about what making money would get you -- a nicer car, travel, things you would buy, a happier relationship or family life, better status in the community, etc., -- then you are very goal driven.
In this example, the person's values, might be family and reputation. Thinking about their goals, as it relates to family and reputation, will be strong drivers for them when it comes to applying self
If, on the other hand, your language was all about what problems having money will solve -- I won't have to drive this old car; I won't be stuck here; my wife will stop complaining; I won't be a nobody, etc. -- you are driven by an "away-from" strategy. In this example, the person's values might also be family and reputation, but the application of self
motivation skills will be different than for the "Toward" person.
When you are aware of what is going on inside your own head, self
motivation skills get easier.
What are the pictures you are creating in your mind when thinking about the activity that you need to do?
When you find that you lack motivation, pay special attention to what you are saying to yourself, and what you are experiencing internally -- the pictures in your mind and the feelings inside.
As an example, if you are struggling to get to the gym, and you are reward driven in this context, you may find that instead of visualizing yourself fit, vibrant and healthy, as a result of your endeavor, you are making pictures of being hot, tired, and sweaty while working out.
If that is the case, motivating yourself will be a struggle. Because of how you are wired, you need to have clear goals and use your internal pictures to drive you toward those goals. In the article on self motivation techniques, I give you step by step instructions for acquiring self motivation skills using visualization.
Remember, for self motivations skills to work, they must be aligned with YOUR personal values. In my article on self help motivation, I reveal how I finally found the motivation to quit smoking when I was young -- after many failed attempts. The shift happened simply by recognizing my OWN values around the issue. Rather than trying to quit for the reasons my family and friends thought were important, I quit for the reasons that were important to me.
Knowing what is important to you, and why it is important, will help you make things happen. Now you have learned the self
motivation skills for eliciting criteria, motivational direction, and values -- three keys for action. Please use them to help make this world a better place for all!