One of the most important (and difficult) steps in emotional trauma recovery is letting go of what happened in the past and be psychology willing to move forward.
It is as if by playing the situation over and over in our heads, we can somehow change the outcome. But we can't. Realizing that the past is behind us and that the future is filled with unlimited possibilities seems OBVIOUS to everyone else looking in EXCEPT the personal struggling with emotional trauma recovery.
When you finally get to the point of WANTING to let go, the question becomes how?
When you are an emotional mess, it is so frustrating when other people say things like "You need to let go..." or "It is time to forgive and forget," or "Move on."
Often you just want to scream:
"Easy for you to say. Just how do you expect me to do that?"
The simple five step method below can help you get there.
In working with clients, I typically use this simple technique in conjunction with the other strategies I have shared on this site. I hope you find it useful.
I used this technique multiple times in my own journey to emotional trauma recovery, described in my book Taming The Tokolosh.
Keep repeating the the sequence, answering the questions each time until you feel a shift and can no longer access the feeling.
If you were unable to get to “yes” in Step 5, work with the Forgiveness:Building Desire Exercise to build your willingness to let go.