Emotional Trauma Recovery:
Letting Go and Letting God . . .

One of the most important (and difficult) steps in emotional trauma recovery is letting go of what happened in the past and be psychology willing to move forward.

It is as if by playing the situation over and over in our heads, we can somehow change the outcome. But we can't. Realizing that the past is behind us and that the future is filled with unlimited possibilities seems OBVIOUS to everyone else looking in EXCEPT the personal struggling with emotional trauma recovery. 

When you finally get to the point of WANTING to let go, the question becomes how?

When you are an emotional mess, it is so frustrating when other people say things like "You need to let go..." or "It is time to forgive and forget," or "Move on." 

Often you just want to scream:

"Easy for you to say. Just how do you expect me to do that?"

The simple five step method below can help you get there.

In working with clients, I typically use this simple technique in conjunction with the other strategies I have shared on this site. I hope you find it useful.

The Five-step Method For Letting Go During Emotional Trauma Recovery

How to "Let Go and Let God"

I used this technique multiple times in my own journey to emotional trauma recovery, described in my book Taming The Tokolosh.

  1. Quiet your mind and concentrate on your breathing for a few minutes.
  2. Bring to mind the incident (or person) that you want to let go of.
  3. Gently put your attention onto it. What is the feeling? Notice where it is located, its size, its shape and how it feels. DO NOT GET INTO THE STORY.
  4. Stay focused on the sensations of the feeling. Breathe into the sensations for a few moments and notice any shifts in location, size, shape and quality. Thoughts or your story about your feelings only feed and strengthen the pain, like throwing wood into a fire. When thoughts arise, simply allow them to pass and gently bring your attention back to the raw sensation.
  5. When you have fully experienced the feeling, and are ready to release it, ask:
  • Could I let this feeling go? If yes, ask:
  • Would I? If yes, ask:
  • When?


Keep repeating the  the sequence, answering the questions each time until you feel a shift and can no longer access the feeling.

Unable to get to yes?

If you were unable to get to “yes” in Step 5, work with the Forgiveness:Building Desire Exercise to build your willingness to let go.

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