How to be More Positive:
The 3 Step Method for Turning Negative Thoughts into Positive Thinking

If you want to learn how to be more positive, you need to create a habit of turning negative thoughts into positive ones. In this article  will learn an easy 3 step mind power technique to do that. .

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You will also find a positive thinking exercise to practice your power of thinking positive.

Why Learning How to Be more Positive is an essential Life skill

We all know that learning how to be more positive, changes how you feel about life on the inside. And it is now a scientific fact that negative thinking has a negative impact on your health, while having a positive outlook lowers stress levels and improves health and well being. 

What surprises people though is how much difference it can make to your external circumstances as well.

The power of positive thinking is a key aspect of harnessing you mind power. Without it, other mind power techniques, simply won't work.

 My hope for you is that by understanding the impact that  positive power thinking can have on your health, happiness and success will give you the motivation for making a habit of turning negative thoughts into positive thinking:

Imagine every thought you think
as a seed of your future.

The words you use and the actions you take are the nourishment for those seeds that help them grow.

The first, and probably most important step in learning how to be more positive,  is cultivating awareness of what is going on in your mind. How else  will you recognize the negative thinking?

Most people aren’t aware of their thoughts at all. They don’t realize that they really can change their thinking. And when they do, life follows suit.

The Three Step Method for Learning How to Be More Positive

Turning Negative Thoughts into Positive Ones
is as easy as 1-2-3.

The short version:

1. Be attentive to your thinking.
2. Delete negative thoughts.
3. Re frame the self-talk, or thought, into a positive form.

Here is how:

Step #1: Pay Attention

The first step in learning how to be more positive is to pay attention to your thinking. Do your best to catch yourself, every time you have a negative negative thought or you "witness" yourself engaged in negative "self-talk."

Sometimes negative thinking is a general attitude like "life sucks," Or "why do bad things always happen to me?" Or, it may be more personal like "I am so stupid," or "I hate my body." Typically those kinds of negative thoughts are easier to catch. But sometimes it is more insidious.

Sometimes we use metaphors that send the wrong messages to the brain. Remember that your brain is very powerful -- but it doesn't have a sense of humor. (Or the ability to sort good from bad, or right from wrong.)

To your brain, information is just that: "information." It takes everything literally.

So, when you say "He is a pain in the rear  . . .," your brain believes you and stores that data.  And when people repeat that kind of message  over and over, it should not be surprising that they end up with lower back problems.

Step #2: Delete The Negative Thought

delete negative self talk

The moment you become aware of it, simply say:

"Delete,-Delete! " (for more on why this works see How to Think Positive)

Step # 3: Re-frame turning the negative Thought Positive

Re-framing when you are learning how to be more positive means you put a positive spin on the negative thought or language. For example, you catch yourself saying: "I am stressed out," you can delete that and say instead "I am excited about. . " [Have you noticed that while the feelings of excitement and stress are similar, one feels good and the other feels bad?]

Or perhaps, you it may be appropriate to say "I am feeling calmer and calmer with every breath I take.

If you catch yourself asking questions like “Why do bad things always happen to me?” Delete!

Then say something like “How can I turn this situation into something fabulous?” And then do it!

When it comes to turning negative thoughts into positive thinking,it is a good idea to create the positive visualization in your mind. Then affirm with your words that it is so.

An affirmation is a positive statement that is phrased in the present tense such as “I am,” “I feel.”

Turning negative thoughts into positive

Your brain is very smart and only executes commands for what needs to happen now. It has no time for “Someday or maybes” and literally puts it out of your mind.

Remember with positive power thinking, just like with all mind power techniques,

we don't deny the reality of life challenges, instead we rise to them.

If you truly are overweight, for example,  and desire to change that – start with your thinking and then follow it up with words and actions.

Examples of How to be more positive with self-talk

If you catch yourself saying “I am so fat.”  Say delete-delete. Then re-frame with something like:

  • “I am beautiful as I am.” 
  • "I am getting leaner and stronger every day.”
  • “I love my body and treat it with care and respect. I prefer healthy, wholesome foods. “

The more you understand and practice, the easier it gets to be more positive.

Positive Thinking exercise:
Examples For Turning Negative Thoughts into Positive Ones

What might you say instead of the following?

  • I am sick and tired
  • I'm a klutz
  • Why do (bad things) ALWAYS happen to me?
  • Why do I always make mistakes?
  • She is drop dead gorgeous
  • He is a pain in the neck
  • It burns me up

Please note that the positive language  below are intended as examples to give you an idea of how to be more positive with your language. There are many other possibilities that could work. 


I am sick and tired ...

I'm a klutz

Positive Re-frame

I am getting better and better

I am graceful

I am a delightful human being

Every day in every way I am getting better and better

Questions can install or
reinforce negative beliefs.

Why do (bad things) ALWAYS happen to me?

How can I turn this into something good?

Wisdom comes with experience

Why do I always make mistakes?

Repetition is how you get good at something.

I am getting better and better every day.

Beware of metaphors that
send the wrong messages to your brain

It burns me up

She is drop dead gorgeous

I didn't like that

She is gorgeous

He is a pain in the neck

It is painful

I did not like what he said

I don't like that

I would prefer something different

When you learn how to be more positive, the next step is to STAY positive.

More On Positive Thinking

More about Affirmations and Auto Suggestions

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