Are you ready for a total life change? The purpose of this page, is to help YOU make the changes in your life you want to make, by sharing the most important lessons I learned on my own journey.
Over the past year, I made a total life change after surviving a violent attack during a home invasion. I don't mean simply that I made a full recovery from a horrific incident. Instead, what I am saying, is that the difficult circumstances, provided me an opportunity to make long needed changes that I probably would not have made otherwise.
The disaster that my life became, motivated me to take a hard look at myself, and do the work that makes total life change possible. It wasn't easy but it was certainly worthwhile.
Most of us have a tendency to judge situations as "good" or "bad." But it is important to remember that very often our most valuable experiences are born from circumstances that we would never consciously choose for ourselves.
If you find yourself in a situation that seems impossible to bare right now, I hope you will be encouraged by my story and consider that your situation has the potential for deep healing too if you choose to see it that way.
For those of you interested in my total life change story, the Dharma Talk, in the video below, was recorded live in February 2017 (audio only) and gives my personal account of what happened the day of my attack, and my subsequent journey subsequent out of fear -- to forgiveness and freedom. I will add significant updates to a post script area near the bottom of this page. The rest of this page offers specific suggestions you might find useful.
There is a difference between wanting to make a total life change and actually doing it. That is because 95% of what we do, say, think and feel, happens unconsciously. (That is why I am such a proponent of mind power techniques that help us work with the subconscious mind)
In fact, according to cognitive neuroscientists, we are conscious of only about 5 percent of our cognitive activity. That means that the majority of our decisions, actions, emotions, and behavior are happening outside of our awareness.
Obviously that is a problem if you are trying to make change.
Change of any kind, requires a change in habits of thinking, being and doing. The reason most people fail to change their habits is that they only address what they are consciously “doing.” (i.e. the symptom) If most of what we do is driven by our subconscious programming, that is not going to work very well, is it?
When we try to make change on the conscious level only, it is like taking a flat tire, filling it up with air and never plugging the leak. The tire may run fine for a while, but eventually it runs out of air again.
Similarly, we go back to our old ways and patterns of behavior. We can move to a different city, get a new partner, a new job -- maybe even a new career, but after a while, what we have done is recreate essentially the same life and the same kinds of problems we had before.
Whatever you think, feel, and believe affects what you do and how
you do it. Those actions in turn generate the results you get.
For example, if we hold anger and resentment in our hearts, if we constantly judge and attack others, it doesn't matter where we live, how much money we have, or who our friends are, we won't be happy for long. There are multitudes of ways people describe this universal, ancient principle: Cause and Effect, the Law of Karma, what goes around comes around, etc.
Personally, I like the ancient Huna belief that we come into this world to heal the unfinished business of our past -- our own, as well as our ancestors. The more we clean things up, the closer we come to liberation and oneness with our creator.
That means that when we face a challenge, instead of resisting what is happening, we ought to embrace it as an opportunity to fulfill our purpose as human beings. By viewing adversity as an opportunity to grow and heal makes an enormous difference when facing a big challenge. By taking responsibility, you become an active participant in the process, rather than victimized by it, and you feel more in control.
Embracing this idea, I came to realize, very directly, that how we perceive the world, is in large part a projection of what is going on inside of us. For a total life change to happen, transformation must take place in our minds and hearts first.
These are the ten most important lessons I learned in the process of turning a horrible life event into a transcendent experience. One that has blessed me in the most wonderful and surprising ways.
I Just got word that the plea deal I was advocating went through last week. The young man will get 7 years probation, during which he will be subject to random drug testing. His adjudication will be withheld until the end of his probation.
I am very grateful to the court and D.A. for their flexibility. I know he and his family are too. It is my deepest hope that something good will come from this experience
I would love to hear from you.